when love lingers

he lingers behind dates written in black ink

behind the words “this time last year”

he lingers in deep belly laughs and in the artwork

that hangs on the wall

he lingers in slurping fingertips

and wine spills on the coffee table

he lingers in lazy Sundays of booze and cartoons

he lingers in everything he left behind

when no more love remained

in his heart

for me.


favorite memories

The first morning we spent together,

he was playing guitar

as we sat in bed surrounded by snow.

The first date,

when I wore my “eat pussy not animals” t-shirt

to cut right through the bullshit

and when I stole crayons on may way back

to the table after a visit to the restroom.

The third date, when I had butterflies

in my stomach

and when it took me over an hour

to pick out the perfect outfit.

That first kiss. When I sat beside him in bed,

book in hands, naked under my bathrobe,

still so innocent as to his intentions.

I wanted to be warm and comfortable. And he always made me feel it was safe for me to be that way.

Then there was the time when he helped me move in,

and we christened the place with what else but tequila.

Our first fight.

When I was still so afraid to have him see me break.

When I opened the door to the end and then shut it almost immediately.

The night when we did drugs and became

a couple, officially.

I guess maybe that one should’ve been a sign.

There was this one night, one of the first we spent

together in my new apartment,

when we drank too much

and were up way too early the next day

and we laid down and meditated and then

took in a sunrise afterwards.

I could hear the humming of the refrigerator

and feel the warmth of his hands enveloping mine

and honestly I would’ve died happy if I had gone at that time.

That day felt like all of love

was giving just me

a hug.

The first time I saw him cry.

You have to be comfortable with tears

to date someone like me.

The day we drank our way through all of Denver

and got kicked out of a restaurant

for being “inappropriate.”

The first moment we both discovered

we were just two big kids

in adult bodies.

I can’t remember exactly when that happened.

Maybe it was something our souls recognized in each other.

That first month

when we were completely sober

and I fell in love with him

for exactly who he was.

There were never any masks,

I loved our love partly because of that.

Because I could say crazy things

and be outrageous

and he would always meet me halfway.

Throughout our time together

he really learned who I was

and loved me just the same-

perhaps that really is worth

all the heartache

of the end.

planting sunflowers

He was enough
just the way he was
the day he helped me plant my first sunflower
and as if speaking to the child inside me
he told me to not be scared for the worms
as I dug my shovel into the clumps of soil,
putting all their lives in peril.

And I remember smiling at the fact that
we could yell at each other
and then spend the rest of the day’s light
playing in the dirt


“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times”

I finally understand that saying now, how life can break you just to remake you- stronger, wiser, aware of the beauty in my own breath and the importance of love.

And still.

The last 365 days without you to share my accomplishments and failures with have been the hardest. I have no regrets of things left unsaid like so many others because my words always belonged to you. And the ones I kept locked away you read in my eyes. But what do I do with my words now?

I wish you were still here so I could tell you how much you changed my life, how your love gave me strength, how I finally learned to see myself with your eyes. But the only thing left to do now is remember, celebrate the years of life you had by drinking your favorite IPA. And it all still doesn’t make any sense. You were once a lover but forever my best friend. You challenged me to be better but loved me at my worst, and among all of the things I still don’t understand are your unwavering faith in me and neverending love. You were my soulmate and I was yours, no matter what, we decided. You made me angry, you disappointed me at times, and you were awful with directions and going to bed instead of falling asleep on the couch. And yet. The mornings when you brought me coffee in bed and danced with me on top of your feet in the kitchen and hid from the world underneath piles of blankets in our own grown-up fort and held me close to your heart the first time I let you see me cry and told me it would all be alright… THAT’S what I remember when I think of you now.

I remember you and I remember love.

But I still hate the fact that all I can do is remember. All I can do now is sit here, drinking your favorite beer and writing honest words you’ll never read.

365 days later and I still feel everything.


record player

Remember the record player? the record player you bought two years after I had been telling you how much I wanted one. The same one you purchased two months after our love broke. Perhaps so you could still keep a piece of me, there against the window, soaking up the stream of sunlight that used to dance across your wooden floors and my lap; perhaps just as bait to bring me back. Remember how you bought it broken, just to have it fixed? And how, even after months of playing Ryan Adams, I couldn’t figure out for the life of me just how to turn it on. So I would plea for help- sweets! my voice echoed along the corridors of your apartment. You always listened. So I learned to sing to you: And you and I were dancing in the dirty rain, my voice would carry over the words, and in the kitchen, with my feet placed on top of yours and my arms around your neck, that day we danced the first dance we’d never get to have.


There are good days and bad days

but the last two

have been the latter

tea and words and tears

for breakfast

and a flood of memories my mind

hasn’t remembered in a while

I want to be able to say more

than just I miss him

when they sit beside me

concern flooding their eyes when they notice

my tear-stained face

but I have no words

to explain the insufferable longing

here in my heart

except for


the tongue of my motherland


comfort seems so distant

a dream my mind must have made up

to get me through today

and then tomorrow

and the day after that

because when life breaks you this way

it’s either live one day at a time

or die.

The in-betweens we create disappear

you learn there’s only yes and no

I will and I won’t

I want you or I don’t

good days and bad

but the last two have been the latter


Maybes no longer exist in my world.




Some days 

I still wish I could 

see myself through your eyes,

even if just once more

It’s not enough 

to know that once upon a time 

you loved me 

as much as you would ever love


and the photographs that once spoke a thousand words

hide away quietly in boxes

waiting for the day 

when the memory of your face

won’t make me

crumble inside.

Fading Away

It’s weird how memories fade.

Where do they go when they leave?

Up above beyond the clouds? Or do they just hang down below instead?

Underneath the dirt of our dirty soles,

our tired souls…

Who can no longer remember the curve of smiles, the scents left behind in the imaginary trail our bodies made?

To where exactly do our memories fade? And who can say how fast?

Why are some ghosts of our pasts still here, and the others long gone,

Far enough away from our minds that we no longer know who’s alive and who’s really dead. No, not anymore. Not these days.

Where do memories go when they fade?

And what if they stayed instead?