Sometimes heartbreaks have nothing to do with you.
Sometimes hearing “I’m not in love with you” isn’t personal.
Sometimes someone is just so unhappy with themselves
they think walking away from a relationship will solve things
and bring them the happiness they’ve been missing.
Sometimes they just haven’t yet learned
that the sadness inside
has been there all along
and will not subside
with a partner by their side.
It will not subside until they learn
how to make themselves happy on their own again.
Sometimes when you love someone
you need to give them space to realize
that they actually really love you, too.
That they actually never fell out of love with you.
They just fell out of love with themselves.
So how can they possibly offer you love now?
Sometimes they’re so empty they can’t even
open their eyes to the truth.
Or maybe it’s just denial
that the problem is them,
and not you.
Not love.
Love is never the problem.
And sometimes you can offer that person space
and time works in your favor
and love is reborn.
And other times, when you give space
the distance between two hearts
grows too far
to ever go back.
Sometimes you just can’t know
how things will work out
so you surrender to the unknown
and walk down a new path
with blind certainty that you’ll be just fine
because you had to learn how to make yourself happy
without needing anyone by your side.
You have learned the lessons.
Now it’s their turn.
It’s not personal.
Sometimes when people leave,
it really has nothing to do with you.
They’re just so lost that
they think it does.
A.P. Bastian 